Life

Here is Priya, my companion, expressed in her new poem. One's dream & potential are achieved at the cost of other. May God gives everyone fair chance and at least a second chance:

http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/note.php?note_id=199823450394&ref=nf

सबसे महत्वकांशी थे हम,


प्रखर, उन्मुक्त और प्रतिभाशाली...

अपने सपनो के रंग ही निराले थे,

ऊँची उड़ानें थी, पंख भी विशाल...

अपनी योजनायें थी, अपनी शर्ते, अपनी मंजिलें और उन तक पहुँचने के अपने बनाये रास्ते......



लोग हमें कभी इंदिरा गाँधी कहते कभी मदर टेरेसा के भक्त कहकर हंसते,

पर वे जानते थे, भरोसा था उन्हें भी... कि ये अपने नए आयामों को खोजेंगी,

जियेंगी अपने मुताबिक जिंदगी को और करेंगी कुछ ख़ास जो नहीं करती छोटे शहर कि लड़कियाँ,

शहर की पहचान में अभी से शामिल है इनका नाम.....



शिक्षक हमारी चमकीली आँखों में नयी दुनिया के स्वप्निल सपने देखते,

हमे मिले प्रान्त और देश के पुरस्कारों से प्रिंसिपल का कमरा भरा रहता था....

आँखों के तारे थे हम...अपने शहर के

मुट्टी में लेकर चलते थे इन्द्रधनुष के सारे रंगों को,

जो मिलता रंग देते थे उसे अपने अलग अलग रंगों से...



समझौता और मजबूरी जैसे शब्द तो जैसे हमें छू कर भी नहीं गुज़रे कभी,

हमेशा बहते थे, तेजी से...अक्सर बहाव का विरोध करते.

निडर, निर्भीक और बेहद साहसी मत के साथ..

हक़ छोड़ते नहीं थे, मुकरते नहीं थे कर्तव्यों से

फिर भी लोग कहते कि इनके जैसे बनो....



अभी भी ज्यादा कुछ नहीं बदला, एक पर्दा सा है दिल और दिमाग का

जो दुनियादारी और सपनो को अलग कर देता है निर्ममता से.

समझौते होने लगते हैं प्यार के नाम पर...

अंदर रोज़ कुछ सुलगता रहता है..एक आग सी...पर दबा देती हैं परेशानियाँ....



अब बंधे हैं एक खूँटी से, मोह में अटके हैं

बंधन में बंधे हैं, और खुश हैं, हँसते भी हैं.....

'कम से कम दिखते तो ऐसे ही हैं'....

The Honeymoon that Never Ends

Osho speaks why its so difficult to relate and why we want it to reduce to a relationship.

Why it is so difficult to relate?
"Because you are not yet. There is an inner emptiness and the fear that if you relate with somebody, sooner or later you will be exposed as empty. Hence it seems safer to keep a distance with people; at least you can pretend you are. You are not. You are not yet born, you are only an opportunity. You are not yet a fulfillment -- and only two fulfilled persons can relate. To relate is one of the greatest things of life: to relate means to love, to relate means to share. But before you can share, you must have.

And before you can love you must be full of love, overflowing with love. Two seeds cannot relate, they are closed. Two flowers can relate; they are open, they can send their fragrances to each other, they can dance in the same sun and in the same wind, they can have a dialogue, they can whisper. But that is not possible for two seeds. Seeds are utterly closed, windowless -- how to relate? And that is the situation. Man is born as a seed; he can become a flower, he may not.

It all depends on you, what you do with yourself; it all depends on you whether you grow or you don't. It is your choice -- and each moment the choice has to be faced; each moment you are on the crossroads. Millions of people decide not to grow. They remain seeds; they remain potentialities, they never become actualities. They don't know what self-realization is, they don't know what self-actualization is, they don't know anything of being. Utterly empty they live, utterly empty they die. How can they relate?"

Here is a link to another article where Osho says. "Forget relationships and learn how to relate."

http://www.creationsmagazine.com/articles/C100/Osho.html

"If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. And there are a few flowers of love which bloom only after long intimacies. There are seasonal flowers too; within six weeks they are there, in the sun, but within six weeks again they are gone forever. There are flowers that take years to come, and there are flowers that take many years to come. The longer it takes, the deeper it goes. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.

Once you are in a relationship you start taking each other for granted– that's what destroys all love affairs. The woman thinks she knows the man, the man thinks he knows the woman. Nobody knows either! It is impossible to know the other, the other remains a mystery. And to take the other for granted is insulting, disrespectful.

To think that you know your wife is very, very ungrateful. How can you know the woman? How can you know the man? They are processes, they are not things. The woman that you knew yesterday is not there today. So much water has gone down the Ganges; she is somebody else, totally different. Relate again, start again, don't take it for granted.

And the man that you slept with last night, look at his face again in the morning. He is no more the same person, so much has changed. So much, incalculably much has changed. That is the difference between a thing and a person. The furniture in the room is the same, but the man and the woman, they are no more the same. Explore again, start again. That's what I mean by relating.

Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other's personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled. That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.

And if you relate, and don't reduce it to a relationship, then the other will become a mirror to you. Exploring him, unawares you will be exploring yourself too. Getting deeper into the other, knowing his feelings, his thoughts, his deeper stirrings, you will be knowing your own deeper stirrings too. Lovers become mirrors to each other, and then love becomes a meditation."

"Relationship is ugly, relating is beautiful."

On Company's 5th founding day

To CarWale Team: This was day we formally began our entrepreneurial journey.

I've been very fortunate to be here and to be part of this team- which I must tell you inspires me every day. You guys are excellent and I'm proud of your efforts to create a valuable company.

I enjoyed being at CarWale. Its part of life and its not a mere co-incident that both CarWale and my son Kanha were conceived at the same time. Of course, it was easier to launch carwale.com and we got it in4 months.

What you need most to start a company is a vision- which in crude form is an idea and in its larger form a purpose to contribute to this world. And the very next and the most critical ingredient to serve that purpose is the team. People who are willing to come togather, invest their time and are willing to resolve differences for a common goal.

Let me talk about and thank my friends who made the birth of this company possible:

A word on each of the founders:

Priya: I'm an entrepreneur by chance- It just happened that I found myself starting a company. Honestly without any plan to do it or even with a thought that we have some ability to do it. Priya was the one to support me and encourage me to do it and said "Mohit, you have the ability and you can run your own stuff." She supported me in all ways possible.

She was working with Care India then, a leading non profit organization and worked very hard for years to help us run the house, pay bills etc. She was the first investor at CarWale. and today, none of my day is actually possible without her support.

Then I met Arun and met him online. He sounded very intelligent and when I met him I realized he is actually so- his problem solving approach was superb- and i think it was refined with thousands of hrs he might have spent playing strategy games. Arun helped me put my thoughts around what the new company can focus on. We decided to do telemedicine- which could help us connect villages with district hospitals (that's for some other time). What I like about Arun is his sincerity and strong will to experiment. He thinks without a baggage and he can think out of box. All i want him to do more is to think more often and think for solving so many business problems that we face in general.

Gaurav: Gaurav was as flamboyant as you see him today. Very good to talk to and he can impress most of the guys and all of the girls in first impression. Gaurav joined where I was working earlier and therefor we could spend more time and he has been most committed to build this company. He likes to achieve and he is ever willing to learn. Gaurav, thank you for being there all these years.


Tufail: After Priya, I have spent my most time with Tufail- now i know him for last 12 years. We have been room mates for 2 years while we did our MBA in Goa. We had shared our lunches and dinners at least a thousand of times in last 12 years. When you eat together friendship grows and if friends can work together business grows.Tufail is a person who had kept the team together- he has been very very caring and thoughtful.

I'm sure Tufail- I gave you more pain than peace (& pleasure) in Bhopal- where we did not have enough money to manage even girl friends. I thank you much for pulling it off. Thanks for bearing with me and for your help and friendship in countless occasions.

Rajeev and Banwari:
CarWale would not have been CarWale without you two. I'm much indebted that you decided to join this company and have given us the best of your time, effort and emotions. I'm sure we will spend many more years together and will enjoy them even more.

Satish and Deepak, though are silent- but their contribution is tremendous. I salute your commitment-brothers.

One of the thing which made this journey difficulty for others- was my inexperience in running a company. I did not have enough experience as how to do it. In all my previous jobs, my role was too independent and I hardly got any guidance. I have learn everything in this company. I am still learning and I'm sure because i did not have so many answers- which you may have expected me to have- i would not have helped you much at times. I know things would have been difficult for you.

A lot has changed over last few years. We have grown as a team, we have some recognition and we have proven that we  have the potential to make a great company.

Look around today and we have a great team. We have phenomenal talent.
Ashok, Avijit, kartik, Sameer, Edward, Jyoti, Bharati, Amol, Anand, Dipti, Anusha, Abhishke, Nancy, Anjali, Ajit, Jhonson and so many others: I admire you people for your talent and thank you for choosing to be part of this company.

We identified few things which are inherent to us. These values are something we live with.... and people who feel in sync with these values and will not compromise on these values, are the one we want to grow with.
1    We respect others and demonstrate care and concern in our behavior
2    We are agile and are ever willing to experiment & learn.
3    We put organization interest before personal position or interest
4    We take responsibility for our efforts &  results and  walk that extra mile to get things done.

I'm glad that the line between play and work has blurred for me and I'll work to achieve this for everyone of you at CW.